Welcome
Marriage is hard. Marriage to a cop is even harder. We as law enforcement wives battle loneliness, fear, and a life marked by the inconveniences of a crisis-driven career. But our marriages can not only survive, but thrive, given the choices and attitudes we adopt on a day-to-day, year-to-year basis.
I've had a CHiP* on my shoulder for over two decades. It hasn't been easy and my husband and I have been through many ups and downs over the years. But I love my cop much more now than when we recited our vows. That love grew through the years as I learned to choose attitudes and perspectives that carried us through the hard times and allowed us to enjoy the great times. I will share these thoughts throughout this website. You may also be interested in my book, A CHiP on My Shoulder – How to Love Your Cop with Attitude. It will be available September 2011. If you go to the Books page, you can read the first chapter. I hope that as you peruse the pages of this site, you'll find a place where you feel understood.
I hope that you will find connection in the things we have in common. And I hope that you find new ways to love your cop, making your marriage better than it's ever been.
*A California Highway Patrolman
